When a Family is Split on Caregiving Duties

Megan Ray  |  August 17, 2011

Family speaking to one anotherRobin D'Angelo got a call at work that alerted her of the bad news - her father had fallen and was on his way to the hospital, according to The Miami Herald. This wasn't the first time that he had suffered a slip, but that made it no less alarming.

Even worse, D'Angelo is largely responsible for her father's welfare, despite the fact that she has two brothers who could potentially help. The problem is that they live hundreds of miles away and arguments about how to best care for their elderly dad strained their relationship. This could end up making for a worse quality of care for a loved one.

Senior care expert Rona Bartelstone explained to the publication that the number one goal of any family should be a "focus" on senior care.

Calling a family meeting about the topic may be the best way to tackle it head-on. This is an opportunity for caregivers to voice their concerns and frustrations. Siblings can also talk about the possibility of assisted living facilities and other living options, depending on a parent's level of need.

Just remember that it's important to listen to the primary caregiver. He or she knows an older adult's lifestyle and requirements the best out of the family and may have the best impression of what to do.